Wednesday, February 20, 2008

There's One In Every Class

There's a boy in Maddie's class named Jimmy. Jimmy is a cute kid, but, well. . . he's bad. He's the boy that has to go to the "sad bear chair" every day. One day, it might be for calling the teacher a stupid, potty-head. The next day, it's because he kicked a classmate during chapel. During the Valentine's Day party, he looked at the cards that the girls gave him, threw them on the ground and told them that he didn't want any card with a stupid princess on it. You just never know with Jimmy.

There's another boy in Maddie's class named Sam. Sam is just as cute and is the most well- behaved child I've ever seen. At their Valentine's Day party, he went up to a little girl, tapped on her shoulder and told her that she looked beautiful. When he opened his valentine's, he told each child that he loved the card they gave him. Every mom wants to hug this child when they leave the classroom.

Guess which boy the girls love? They want to sit with Jimmy at lunch. They want to have their pictures made with him. They want to help him with his crafts. I don't know if, subconsciously, they want to help him, or if they just like the "bad boy".

Meanwhile, Sam is standing on the sidelines, waiting patiently. Offering sweet words of love and friendship, as the girls rush to Jimmy's side.

I don't see this trend ending any time soon. We still have junior high and high school to get through. Leather jackets vs Varsity Letter jackets. Motorcycles vs Volvos. Tattoos vs nose rings- hey, it'll be 2022, we've got to think realistically, here.

I want to tell Sam to hang in there and to keep being sweet. That the girls usually outgrow the James Dean complex and end up with the good boys, anyway.

At least she better. And, if Justin and I have anything to do with it, she will.

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Amy said...

Wow, I didn't realize that it starts so early. I loved the bad boys until I got tired of them stomping on my heart.

FUN-ky Mama said...

It's fascinating that it starts so early.
I ended up with a good guy too, but not until I endured a hellish marriage to a bad guy. Why must we learn things the hard way??

Jenni said...

Poor Sam. Does it go the other way, too? I seem to remember the nice girls getting all the "boy" friends. Not the bratty ones.

Irene said...

Wow, that does seem early. So far, my Kindergartener seems to like the nice boys. I was never a bad boy type of girl. I was so incredibly shy, bad boys really scared the hell out of me!

But you are right, Sam will win out in the end.

kimmie said...

I just don't understand either. The bad boys get the good girls? According to my 7th grader, its usually because they are "hot". I guess she should know, she has a bad boy in her life right now. ;)

Adrienne and Jim said...

Isn't it amazing how young this starts? Sweet Sam. He'll end up being the best husband and father someday, while Jimmy will be the guy who never grows up. I'm trying to raise Owen to be a Sam, but I feel sorry for him already that he may not have a girlfriend until he's 25! Hey, maybe that's a good thing.

Sarah O. said...

I really like Maddie. She reminds me so much of my daughter. For instance, my preschool Emily's friends were always, always, always bad boys. Always. Really, really BAD boys. Ho boy, I fretted that I was in for serious trouble when she'd be a teenager.

Now she's 16 and not interested in the least in bad boys. Or bad girls. Phew.

Then again, I wouldn't be surprised if, once in college, she'd bring a purple haired boy home for Thanksgiving.

Anonymous said...

Yeah, sometimes we just can't help ourselves... the bad boy is just so compelling. lol

BookMomma said...

What a crazy social experiment!

I don't know... I think every girl should have a Jimmy so they can REALLY appreciate their Sam. Kind of like there is no day without night. I just hope I can raise some Sams...

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