Monday, March 10, 2008

The Sleeper

Does your spouse read your blog? Mine does. And, most of the times, I don't mind. In fact, I love to hear him tell me what he thought about it. If he liked it, that is. . .

Saturday night, I really wished he didn't read my blog. At. All. Let's just say, I wasn't too happy with him, and I wanted- no- needed to vent. And, I couldn't because then he would know I was mad and I can't hold an effective grudge if he knows why I'm mad.

We haven't been able to spend a lot of time together. The one weekend that Maddie was with her Granny, we were sick. The next weekend, Maddie was sick. The next, Maddie and I went out of town. He's been super busy with work. And, our schedules just haven't meshed very well.

Saturday, we didn't have anything planned. He had to work during the day, but the night was wide open. We did have Maddie, but that's not a big deal. She goes to bed at 8, so I knew we would have the rest of the night, to just get reconnected. Maybe watch a movie, eat some popcorn, talk, plan the next 10 years, etc. Yeah, I was excited.

I put Maddie to bed. Walked into the den, and there he was- sleeping.

Okay, I thought, I'm sure he needs a little nap. He's been working hard, lately. It's early, yet. He'll wake up soon, I'm sure.

An hour passes. Nope Are you kidding me?! You are 31, not 71. It's 9 o'clock. Wake up!

Two hours pass. Opens his eyes for a second, then goes back to sleep.

By 11 o'clock, steam was coming out of my ears. If he dared to open his eyes, and even attempted to talk to me, he was given the death stare.

This was OUR night! And, he slept right through it.

At midnight, I gave up and went to bed. And, in my passive aggressive way, left on all of the lights, while he slept on the couch.

At some point, he made it to bed. The next morning, when we woke up, he had the nerve to tell me that he didn't sleep well. Then he asked me what we were going to do that day.

I told him that I was going to sleep. All. Day. Long. I had a good mad going, and I knew that if I wanted to keep being mad, I couldn't be around him very much. Less chance of him apologising if I was sleeping.

He apologised before we even got out of bed. Dang it! I was kinda looking forward to giving him the silent treatment, that I'm so good at. Once someone apologises to me, I can't be mad. I'm kinda a stickler for the whole forgive and somewhat forget thing.

We ended up having a good Sunday. No hard feelings, and only a few scathing comments, on my part.

But, I'm letting you know, here and now, Mr. Justin Lee-

I have high hopes for this Saturday night. Take a nap before dinner if you need to.

Got it?

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Future Envy of the PTA said...

Your blog is quickly becoming one of my favorites!

Irene said...

Oh I know! I also really look forward to those precious couple hours after the kids are in bed when we can just relax, talk, whatever. I would also have big time steam coming out of my ears! But I wouldn't have been as nice. I would have probably woken him up with a nice swift kick.

Sassy said...

My husband has that same disease. I just wake him up and tell him that his car is rolling down the hill or something to raise his heart rate, oh about 65 beats per second. Then, I laugh and feel better, it is ALL ABOUT ME. Then I go to bed while he is very very WIDE AWAKE....haha-

noble pig said...

Oh my gawd, I'm your husband! Falling asleep is my worst habit ever...eeeks!

BookMomma said...

My husband does the same thing. I'm getting pretty tired of it really. Maybe I should post something on the old blog to check if he's reading... HA! Thanks for the great idea!!

Nicole said...

Have I been married too long? When DH falls asleep like that, I'm like "WooHoo! ME Time!" Then I sit at the computer and try to catch up on the bajillion blogs in my google reader.

But I have to say that I have a new favorite quote. "I had a good mad going, and I knew that if I wanted to keep being mad, I couldn't be around him very much." That is classic. Possitively classic.

Note: He's out of town, not sleeping... hence my blog reading catch-up session.

MommyTime said...

Oh, I so totally know this feeling! Except with me, it's a toss up whether he's asleep or committed to some horrific group video game that requires his presence in order for the team to play at all, now that he's committed, and takes THREE HOURS to play. I like the idea of giving a warning, though. I'll have to try it.

Rachel said...


Ha ha ha ha ha!!!

Suburban Turmoil said...

Okay, now imagine that happened and it was NEW YEAR'S EVE. And you have my ringing-in-of-2007. It was accompanied by Hubs's snoring and it was one I'll never, ever forget.

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